It is hard for me to explain this because the term is so common now and I don’t know if any readers will understand, because it might be the only way they think about pregnancy these days: ‘planned’ or ‘unplanned’. I felt very uncomfortable today at the clinic when I was filling out forms and I was asked if this pregnancy is ‘planned’…I asked Luke and we said “yes”, but I wanted to say, “this pregnancy was hoped for, it was a gift from God!” We had been hoping for another baby since last summer. We can’t plan to have a baby a certain month and give birth nine months later though. It just doesn’t happen that way. Even when a woman is not breastfeeding and is in perfect health, the chances of conceiving are not 50-50.
Upon further reflection, it seems to me that this is yet another symptom of society’s rejecting God in everything. The words we use make important impressions on the way we think about things.
Was your baby planned? -is it bad if he wasn’t?
Does your baby sleep through the night? -is it bad if she doesn’t, if she wakes up every once in a while and nurses back to sleep?
Are you pro choice? -do you mean do I support the right to choose raising my baby with my husband, or giving him up for adoption…or do you mean something more sinister?
Do you work? -what does it mean if I don’t work for pay, but my work is infinitely more rewarding, my work is orienting our children toward God and Heaven?
Just a few things to think about…